In this book were going to be talking about the 2 predominant and powerful communication styles which should improve your effectiveness as a communicator, persuader or as a leader. Especially CRUCIAL to folks entering a new group of people where the perfect calibration of strength and approachability is crucial in gaining a solid foothold in the group.
People are too hung up on techniques and tactics without realizing there are actually 2 styles of communication one could shift into, to hit the sweet spot ''and maximize communication and relationship effectiveness not to mention persuasiveness and compliance, from your peers and subordinates! Choosing the wrong one at the wrong time or to the wrong people? You lose respect, authority and they won''t follow or believe anything you say! Even worse…they''ll shun you out PERMANENTLY for coming in too strong or too weak and mis-calibrated!
Introduction
The Newbie and his homework
New house, new rules!
Knowing the players
Credibility building
Chipping away
Technical Experts and Know -it- alls
Pockets of powers
Not created equal
Being the force of change
Communication between the sexes
Male psychology
Female psychology
Initial communication assessment phase in business
Direct style communications
Group talks and Direct style
Authority and Decisiveness
Arguments and Verbal jousts
Too Controlling
Hinting your power
Power is just in the mind
Weak communication
Alphas and Betas
Too stiff
Not listening
Flexibility
From the edge, inwards
Indirect style
Language from the edge
Asking questions
Indirect requiring more direct means
Arguments
Protection of Egos
Calibration and balance is key
Direct style transitioning to Indirect
Indirect style transitioning to Direct
Covering a topic
Power plays
Changing to Direct style mindset
Improving your communication style
Inner critique
Recording yourself
Talking in front of the mirror
External critiques
Culture and a larger vocabulary
Tips to improve your techniques
NLP Influence
Cautionary tales
Practice, practice, practice!
Safe place
Inner game requirements for change